Relationships - Can't Live With or Without Them?
Are you cheating? Thinking about it? Already did it, and trying to forget about it? Do you think you can leave your marriage for that fling you've held so secretly under your wing for the past 5 years? Do you think your wife doesn't have a clue that you're involved with someone else? Do you think that running from one relationship into the next is going to solve the problem? Do you think asking an astrologer, psychic, or even your shrink for a quick and easy answer is going to solve "your" problem? Think again.
In most of the readings I've given -- if not all of them -- I'm continuously confronted with the same questions -- Here are just a few:
- He's acting kind of distant -- we use to be really close but -- I don't know...he's being weird -- Is he having an affair?
- My husband is extremely jealous -- Is our relationship going to last? Also, I want to know if Joe (my lover) is going to leave his wife so we can be together?
- My wife hasn't got a clue -- but I've been having this wild infatuation over a girl I work with and I'm wondering weather she's really the one? We've come close to crossing the line, but we're really afraid that it will cause problems in our careers.
Astonishingly....there are more people fooling around then you can imagine, and there's really only one answer for all of this; Look in the mirror, you'll find the answer staring you right in the face. Just for the gender record: The fact that the 3 examples above are focused primarily on women who are infidel does not mean men are not -- It simply means there seems to be more of a conscience operating and they are more interested in the analysis of the situation.
Men may do it as much, simply because they are involved with the women above doing the cheating -- however, they may more likely go to another man for their problems while women gravitate to women to discuss these issues. I've also found that men will be more concerned regarding their career and throw in a few questions about the relationship issues afterwards, and more times than enough are in denial about what they're really saying. In other words, they're not just fantasizing about a co-worker, they've already made a move but will not admit to their actions for fear of losing the security they've built in a bad marriage. Many times they'll stay in the affair and marriage, in most cases they're not going to change for the wondering lover who waits. So -- is he coming back, is he the one? Don't bet on it -- and the bottom line is -- you'll be old an gray before he makes up his mind. If your looking for monogamy -- and it starts with an affair -- chances are, monogamy is not there. Move on.