Tuesday, January 12, 2010 12:01 PM
by
compassionateandcaring
Things you can change...
Normally, I am a very happy and optimistic person. However, it was
yesterday evening I found myself in a bad mood. Why? I though about it.
Why was I really in a bad mood, anyways? I thought about it some more.
. .it came down to something that was, for the most part, out of my
control.
So, I decided to be proactive in the matter. I did
what I could to solve the problem and told myself not to worry about
it. Then, I distracted myself with something fun. I love a good movie,
so I sat down and watched a classic. Lo and behold, I had a good rest
of the evening.
It is normal to have highs and lows- everyone
has them (although some might not admit to it). How you handle them
means the difference between getting into a rut or letting those bad
days easily slip by into good days.
So, how do you handle bad
days? For a relatively effective fix, you can do the same thing I do.
First of all, make a list of the reasons you are feeling bad. Make a
sub- list. In the sub- list, you want to make two categories. The first
one is: Things you can change. The second sub- list is: Things that are
out of your control.
Do all the things in your 'can change'
sub- list. After you finish, you are left with your can't change list.
Go over it one more time, reminding yourself that it is, in fact,
something you can't change. Take a step back. And now, take a moment
to do something you enjoy, like playing basketball or video games. Make sure you are really distracting
yourself, so that by the end of it, you are not thinking about what has
put you in a bad mood.
Hopefully, by this time, you should even be in a good mood!
This
is just one technique I personally use and that I find effective. I
have many other ideas as well to feel good and . . .encouraged. If you
need more ideas on how to channel good feelings and get out of a bad
mood, let me know. I can offer you free minutes to start, so don't be
too shy to ask.