June is represented by the Lovers card in the Tarot and it’s Gemini month in astrology.
The Lovers card means we are facing a complex either/or choice. On the
one hand the outcome looks predictable, on the other, the outcome is
unclear and risky. In terms of romantic lovers, it would point to
having to choose between thrill and steady or affair and commitment.
Gemini as the sign of the twins, is a focus on soul mates, connection
and communication. It’s also suggestive of the duality within the
Gemini: The twins existing in one person. June is a solstice month when
exactly ½ the day is light and ½ is night which is why Gemini is so
well represented in June. Darkness and light in an equal and balanced
Psychic Readings and Morality
One of a reader’s most complex challenges is her/his own
prejudices/assumptions/moral code. It’s a slippery slope! Most
importantly, a reader needs to know what their limitations are - what’s
negotiable for them and what isn’t.
A client with a married lover is a case in point.
I don’t suffer strict moral limitations on this issue. In my view and
experience, some, maybe even most, people are simply not monogamous. My
experience, which may be skewed admittedly, would suggest most people
can DO monogamy as a sacrifice to have the other goodies they like in a
committed, long-term relationship but given their druthers, they would
take new lovers whenever they wished.
It’s a promise made at a time, under a set of circumstances that
may shift when a life change takes place, such as the birth of a child.
The commitment to remain together for monetary or child-rearing
reasons, along with the transformed decision to open the relationship to
new partners may happen at any time in a relationship’s journey. For
both sexes. I’m not one that subscribes to the notion that women are,
by some freak of nature, more monogamous than men. The fact that this
is typically more evident is simply social conditioning at play.
This works for some but in my experience, a minority succeed in finding
their true love online. Foremost, you must go at it with the right
mind-set. It’s a mine field! Lying on profiles, having a steady
girlfriend or being married and the partner living elsewhere, photos
that are decades out of date, height, weight, job and hairline
exaggerations. Online dating is like running across a fast-moving river
and trying not to sink. You must take it all LIGHTLY - moving on from
next to next lightning fast. Don’t take any of it personally or
seriously and be realistic in your approach – too good to be true? Do
you think he’s/she’s gorgeous, smart, successful, kind, generous, funny
and single? Needing to meet their true love online because they can’t
find anyone that will put up with them in person? Seriously?
Love Takes Years
I’m often asked if their lover loves them. True LOVE takes years
to emerge, evolve and grow deep roots. Love at first sight is LUST at
first sight. No one truly loves you until they’ve experienced you in
all your disgusting glory – sick, vulnerable, making mistakes, stupid
and otherwise. When we commit to being with one person for a lifetime,
it’s their faults that will become our teachers and their gifts our
Making a commitment to this one person is the single biggest
mistake you don’t want to make. It will be a far greater investment
than anything you might buy. I’ve known people to spend more time
humming and hawing over a car purchase than declaring a life time
commitment to someone. Your committed relationship will affect your
health (for the good or bad), longevity (yes, married women die younger
than single women and married men live longer than single men),
financial stability (or not), career trajectory (self-confidence,
workaholism), childbearing and rearing, and family relationships. It’s
Now you know why it’s so easy to fall in love in June. Be intuitive and
wise, circumspect and spontaneous – find that balance in the dark and
light as you navigate this wondrous and treacherous journey ahead.